Diary
of a Big Dummy
The
days are getting longer. Soon the snow will melt. Spring green up
will be in full swing and welcome after a long hard winter. Kitty is
still taking a break, we are talking and have visited. That's a
positive!
The
Coronavirus Social Distancing experiment is in full force, even in
Alaska. Our little village is no exception. It's a ghost town. The
gas station and the liquor store are open. They are essential.
There is very little traffic. The senior center is closed. You can
still get lunch but now have to call ahead and drive up for curb
service. Meals on wheels is still rolling too. It's great they have
been able to do this.
So,
what am I doing with my time now? A lot of pacing. I am a bundle of
nervous energy with a dog that is very bored. He's sleeping on his
couch now. We still go to the campground every day. I try and make
several trips. We may not be in the trailer anymore but we're still
caretakers. Besides, Norm gets to run. He still takes his job as
head of security seriously. We can walk the snow machine trail
without falling through and the snow doesn't hurt my dead feet.
Besides
this, I sit. I think, about my life in the past and all of the
different events that have led me to this point of here and now.
It's
a really hard thing to do but if I want to make myself better, it is
a must.
I'm
finding that I do not like looking in the mirror.
Forcing
these memories to the surface in detail is an exhausting task.
Analyzing these situations with what I have learned about my mental
health is both difficult and frightening. I have good memories but
by and large, I was my own worst enemy over the course of my life and
my career.
I
had just finished up my time with the aerial construction company.
I'd been with them 10 years and I was burned out. I had turned
myself into the go to guy out of sheer determination. I was still
young in the industry, had energy, and was learning my trade well.
We were working harder and longer trying to keep a failing company
afloat. It is unfortunate but I left this company on bad terms. I
should have handled the situation more diplomatically but I was tired
and I snapped. I refused to see the company's position, only mine.
I had no empathy for another crisis they were in. I was angry to be
called on yet again.
Be careful working your way into the go to guy
slot.
My
drinking career was in full swing.
I
was no longer needed.
I
hired on with a small but growing airplane repair center. They
maintained privately owned piston airplanes but were trying to work
into the business jet market. I had been a helicopter mechanic since
my career started, I knew nothing about airplanes. The two are very
different.
I
was was ready for a new challenge, I was eager and ready to learn. I
got my chance and had a good start. I learned the basics quickly and
was moved into working on larger, more in depth projects. I tried.
I worked my tail off. I was still one of the first ones to show in
the mornings and last to leave at night. I kept up with the guys
with more experience. My problem was that I never really understood
airplanes. I didn't like them. I couldn't learn the systems fast
enough. I never really gained confidence in myself at this company.
I asked too many questions but couldn't make good decisions. I
relied on others to think for me on processes I didn't understand. I
had to be shown different techniques time after time. I even managed
to start a fire underneath a twin engine airplane. In short, I was
not a good airplane mechanic.
One
of the mechanics there was a sharp guy. He knew aviation, he knew
airplanes, project organization, and how to manage multiple large
inspections and repairs. We were acquaintances. I didn't work with
him often. I guess that at some point he saw my inadequacies. He
started making off handed comments to me. There was no taking me
under his wing and helping. It was always about survival of the
fittest.
For
the longest time, I didn't realize I was being looked down on. The
type comments he made either went over my head or I didn't know how
to respond. He worked his way through the ranks and different
departments. He never stayed anywhere long, he continued to move up.
Eventually
he became director of maintenance. He was the guy to run the entire
maintenance department. He was the boss.
My
new name was Big
Dummy.
I
started hearing it more often.
It
was at that point he showed that he didn't like me.
I
still didn't understand the social aspects of work.
I
didn't realize I was that poor of a technician there.
What
I did know was that I didn't like airplanes.
I
worked hard but lost ground.
I
wanted desperately to be working on helicopters again.
I
heard Big Dummy several times over the next months without knowing
how to respond.
I
left another job.
When
I make my posts on social media, I notice that I receive sad faces.
If
you have made it this far, please don't feel sad for me.
It
has been a lifetime of events that have landed me in my situation.
The
only thing I can do is look back and try to understand them.
I
can try to learn how different actions and emotions
could
have affected my life for the better.
For
me, drudging up these memories is a good exercise
The
ability to move to a new way of being
First
requires a new way of thinking
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